What to Do After a Break-Up?

One of the most commonly asked questions, in the history of man.

I am in many self-improvement groups, which are dominated by males seeking to become the best possible version of themselves.

The question gets brought up in so many ways:

“My girlfriend walked out of me today”

“My wife and I’s divorce just became final”

“I woke up to all my girlfriend’s clothes gone from the closet”

“She told me we were better off as friends”

WHAT NOW????!!!!!

Just calm down. . . breathe deeply.

I am not that type of man, to tell another man to suck it up.

Too often in this country we try to instill this mantra in our men, that we should stay bottled up.

To repress emotions.

That is unhealthy, and unrealistic.

Every man has their emotional process; I can’t give you a timeline for that as it varies from person to person.

What I want you to give you, are methods that are going to help you better yourself, which is the focal point of Inner Reign.

  1. Laugh




Sorry. Got a little carried away

We take ourselves way too seriously, and we have a habit of being way too harsh on ourselves when things don’t go as planned in life.

Break-ups, like most unfortunate events, just happen.

Enjoy the things that put a smile on your face, as often as possible, and you’ll see your spirits will be lifted in no time.

  1. Understand the Lesson


Regardless of whomever the fault falls on for failed connection, understand that there is often something that can be taken from the situation and improved upon.

If you got out of the relationship unscathed, then breathe a sigh of relief.

Too many people come out of relationships like they just came back from a war: battered, broken, with long-term damage to recover from

If you fall in this category then understand where you need to either improve yourself or perhaps be a little bit more selective in whom you are dealing with.

Dating is often a discovery process, a constant struggle to you figure out yourself and what you want: Learn, Adapt, and Evolve.



The most important aspect of breaking up with someone.

Value yourself and your time that you no longer have to consider using on someone else.

There was a point in my life, when I feared being by myself, that I had to CONSTANTLY be with the opposite sex to feel complete.

I am so glad I am beyond that phase.

Listen, I think I’m probably the most lovey-dovey, affectionate, cuddly male on the face of this earth.

But I know I’d rather have a bad day of feeling lonely every now and then vs containment in a toxic relationship.

Companionship, naturally, is to be desired, but I have come to really appreciate my time to myself.

When I am not working, I’m working out, I’m researching, I’m studying, I’m writing, I’m attending seminars, enjoying my peace.

I think about the mission and how that comes first, and how I can further myself in becoming as High Value as possible.

The next person must be so incredible, to pull me from my peace and inner strength that comes from The Mission.

I will also admit, I carry a chip on my shoulder about it as well.

I know, I know, there are a million reasons why break ups occur, but the bottom line is, when you’re on the short end of things, all you can think about is:

“She didn’t choose me”


Be so High Value she regrets it.


So High Value she thinks twice about who she ended up with.

A coach during my football playing days use to tell us, “beat a team so bad, they lose the next week”

The same rule applies here.


Yes, I know break ups can suck, and in the back of your mind you pause and think of the good times.

Nothing wrong with that.

Nothing wrong with reminiscing over the good times life brings.

But there is work to be done.

Laugh, Learn, and INVEST IN YOURSELF.

Remember the mission is to further the lineage, further the society, through being a High Value Man.


Weather Your Storm, Maintain Inner Reign -E

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