“Two things define you: Your patience when you have nothing and your attitude when you have everything.” – Unknown
You can tell a lot about a person who doesn’t have what they want.
What actions are you taking to obtain what you are in pursuit of?
What does your work ethic look like?
Are you exercising every option available to you?
And most importantly, are you practicing active patience when something you want is out of your control?
As High Value Men, you must remember your life is a platform.
A stage; an exhibit to all onlookers, men and women alike, who are judging your character every chance you get.
Individuals who are observing how you handle your triumphs, as well as your defeats.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not so much about pleasing other people.
I just want men who have a handle on their emotions.
Men who retain their own self-possession gracefully, no matter the circumstances.
Today I want to discuss a topic that a lot of men seem to struggle with. . .
Men in this era seem to struggle when they don’t get what they want.
I don’t know if it is a sense of entitlement, but men today seem to react poorly when any obstacle presents itself.
We either erupt in a fit of rage, or we shut down in a sea of depression.
A change in perspective is in order.
The concept of rejection should not only be accepted but embraced.
Rejection means you’re not perfect.
Which means you have room for growth.
Or it could mean that something or someone, just isn’t on the same wavelength as you.
Essence magazine a couple of years back posted an article detailing instances where women were killed for telling men “no.”
Shot in the face point black for rejecting a dance.
Shot for denying sexual advances.
Shot for refusing to give out a number.
Stabbed for returning an engagement ring.
Shot for not giving up custody of a child.
Gentlemen, this is unacceptable behavior.
Women have begun to simply give away their number, fearful that rejecting a man could cost them their life.
Which just isn’t healthy for the overall state of men/women interactions.
One of the greatest lessons my mother ever taught me, was the importance of self-love.
I remember in the 3rd grade I was trying lock down Becky with the good hair, and she was NOT feeling my ass.
I asked my mom what I should do, and she told me I was never going to “convince” a woman to like me.
“Find someone that likes you back, don’t be chasing after people who don’t want you.”
Have we as men become so frail mentally?
Can we no longer handle life when we don’t get what we want right away?
If you aren’t getting the results you want in life: career-wise, women-wise, body image-wise.
Hone your focus on self-improvement FIRST.
Harness that frustration positivity.
I see so many men that turn to self-destruction when life doesn’t go their way.
Its time to change the narrative.
When I get a rejection e-mail from a company, I go out and apply to ten more times.
When I don’t nail that interview, I write out my responses and practice . . .over and over.
When I started learning how to run game, I got rejected CONSTANTLY.
But I kept perfecting, and when you keep improving, and things don’t go your way a strange thing happens.
You learn to live with the results.
I can live with giving something my absolute best and it not working out.
More than likely your endeavors will start to bear fruit.
Suddenly I was crushing interviews.
“Congratulations” replaced “We’re going in another direction.”
And the caliber of women I always envisioned myself around, started accepting my advances too.
But you must change your mindset.
Rejection must be embraced as just another part of the refining process.
Fulfillment is born through overcoming adversity.
Nothing worth having comes easy.
I know some days its hard to be turned down, but that should only be fuel to mold that winner inside you.
I want a society of winners.
A society of High Value Men.
Weather Your Storm, Maintain Inner Reign -E